In the space of 20 years, I have had the privilege of getting into romantic relationships with women of diverse cultures, races, and beliefs. Like everything else in life, I have gathered deep knowledge through my experiences, and I know what to expect from certain brackets of women. While there are always exceptions, I’ve found that my observations hold for about seven out of ten women.
Some people let their faith deeply shape their lives, influencing everything from their decisions to their relationships. But is dating someone who is deeply religious a wise choice? Should you pursue a romantic relationship with someone whose faith is a guiding force? Here’s everything you need to know before taking that step.
Insights on religious women
Society often holds clergymen, clergywomen, and devout individuals to exceptionally high standards, expecting them to make the ‘right’ choices in almost every situation. However, reality doesn’t always align with these expectations.
Religious women, in particular, often embody their faith in visible ways—through their outlook, interactions, and personal decisions. Religion becomes woven into the fabric of their daily lives. Yet, history has shown that religion can sometimes be used as a facade, a tool to manipulate or conceal darker motives.
For example, I once watched an interview with a grieving father seeking justice for his daughter and her friend. Both were groomed by a religious woman, who later orchestrated the unethical harvesting of their eggs, leaving them with lasting physical damage. Stories like this remind us that appearances can be deceiving.
In my experience, the true measure of a religious woman isn’t her outward appearance or public persona. It’s her consistent actions, her unwavering principles, and how she treats others in every facet of life. Later in this article, I’ll share my encounters with religious women and how they shaped my understanding of faith and character.
Is It Bad Dating a Very Religious Woman?
Dating a very religious woman can be a bittersweet ride, as she could be too strict, clingy, committed to the relationship, sometimes timid, and unyielding in the sexual part of the relationship. They tend to follow their religion to the T and may disagree with most of your secular views.
However, with patience, most religious women tend to relax their rigidity for people they love. Also, they tend to give you peace of mind (if they are truly religious), as they will be disciplined enough not to become infidels in the relationship, as we see with most people today—having casual relationships with their “girl best friends or boy best friends.”.
Personally, out of seven very religious people I have been with, five of them had the external “very religious” persona but were far from anything religious. They only had to put up that shell because of their families and the people they grew up with, but at any opportunity, they were explicitly morally loosed.
Some of them were unkind to others, had multiple sexual partners, operated in two different realities like they had cognitive dissonance, and cared very little about joint personal growth, but more on how you could lavish all you got on them.
A very notable instance is Amina (not her real name). Her outfits covered a large part of her body. She will always point out how sinful I was and how far from God I am. Even when she eventually accepted my advances, she was strict on sex—insisting we would only have that commitment when married.
One faithful day, while she prepared something we were both going to eat—leaving her phone in the room—she got a beep on her phone. I tried to get her phone to her, but my eyes read the content of the message she had just received, which read, “Hi love, I sent you some pictures.
I would have dismissed that message, thinking it was from her girlfriend since she stored the contact with a feminine name, but something within me insisted that I pry further. On checking her WhatsApp, I was stunned. It wasn’t just one person, but 5 other guys, like what??? But she asked if we don’t have intimacy till marriage, haha.
Potential benefits of dating a religious woman
When you find a truly devout woman who has a unified personality inwardly and outwardly, your relationship with that individual will benefit in numerous ways. While humans are hardly consistent with their thoughts and speeches, you enjoy sharing company with a person whose words and actions are always consistent.
The problem of fidelity is that most individuals of our generation who find it difficult to discipline their urges are usually not faced with truly religious women as they discipline themselves to not offend their God or go contrary to what their scriptures admonish.
When we attain all our basic needs, the burden of discovering ourselves and growing further beckons. A religious woman will aid you in self-development, as she will care little about what you can offer materialistically. Rather, she will offer you inspiration and the support you need to attain that joy of self-discovery.
A truly religious woman will set boundaries on what is expected, making it easier for you to decide. She is also not a burden, as she’ll be purpose-driven and can help you manage your finances perfectly well.
Sadly, I came across truly religious women when I cared so little about commitments. They may seem too clingy or overly committed, but when you return to the dating pool of loose moral ladies, you’ll certainly see the gem you may have lost.
Navigating relationships with a religious woman
When you find yourself in a relationship with a religious woman, you have to pay attention to signs aimed at revealing if she is just a pretender or a real religious gem. If you have a real one, there are certain things you need to put in place to have a great relationship despite the difficulties you may face.
Ensure you don’t oppose her faith or say ill things about her faith, or that could deplete the feeling she has for you. You can even participate in her faith (if you are comfortable with it). You need to understand her faith and encourage her—this will make her endeared to you even more.
Patience is a great tool here. It helped me all the way—to get them relaxed and comfortable spending time with you. You don’t need to rush into making advances; allow things to happen naturally. You will be surprised that they will be the first to initiate anything.
Communication cannot be set aside. It is going to be one of the most important tools in this journey of yours with the very religious love of your life.
Summing Up
Dating a very religious woman can be a daunting task, given that they will have differing views from yours. However, with patience, communication, and proper understanding, you may just be walking into one of the best relationships of your life, where your efforts will be reciprocated and exceeded.
