Dark fetish desires, cuddling, and having you all to himself are among the thoughts of a guy who has a crush on you, but kissing you may not always be the priority—and we will discuss why in this article.
On a recent tour to educate and encourage more ladies to join tech, I developed a crush on a co-worker. She speaks so eloquently that you can’t help but notice the inexplicable allure of the contrast of her pink lips against her dark face. It’s moments like these that provoke thoughts of intimacy, including a desire to kiss.
So how do you tell if a guy desires to kiss you? Depending on what initially piques the guy’s interest in you, there will always be signs that indicate his desire to kiss you. I will share some of these signs with you shortly and give you a big secret that works like a charm on all guys.
Do Guys Think About Kissing Their Crush?
According to Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and author of Why We Love: the Brain’s Reward System, a complex cocktail of dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin causes a person’s mood to light up when they set their eyes on a person they feel attracted to.
For men, visual stimuli are the major players in this process, which means the physical appearance of the lady may play a huge role in developing a crush for them. However, while physical appearance may create the initial spark, emotional attraction is what sustains the attraction and desire to kiss, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages.
I haven’t felt like kissing all the ladies I have a crush on. I have a preference for dark ladies with pink lips, and each time I see a beautiful one more than once, I sometimes develop a crush and a strong desire to plant a kiss on their lips—without any care to engage in other fetishes or intercourse. While there are some ladies I may see and only get sexually attracted to instead.
Having spoken to over eight of my friends and some male readers of this blog, I find my view to be consistent among all of them.
My friends don’t always desire to kiss all their crushes, but they do have a strong urge to kiss the ones who possess the facial allure that they like. So what are those signs that show you possess the facial attribute that could prompt the guy who has a crush on you to think of kissing you?
Signs That a Guy Might Be Thinking About Kissing His Crush
When guys have a crush on you, numerous signs will tell if they want to kiss you, and these cues are not so visible, but if you pay attention, you can spot them all:
He Frequently Looks at Your Lips
When you talk, pay attention to what he does. If his gaze is set on your lips without him blinking much, then he probably wants to see how soft your lips are when they press against his. According to all my friends, frequently looking at your lips is normal when they have a crush and desire to kiss her.
He wants to eliminate the physical distance between you two.
When I was much younger and couldn’t walk up to the ladies that I appreciated their beauty, I strived to get pretty close so I could get them to notice me. If we eventually get talking, I try as much as possible to get close (sadly, in a creepy way), but the plan was to stand so close so I could see if we could get to kiss (such a sad phase of my life, lol).
However, this still holds to date, just that I will get closer in a non-creepy way, and according to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, a psychologist known for his work on nonverbal communication, he explains that proximity is a strong indicator of attraction. A guy who has constant thoughts of kissing you will always look for a way to close the gap between you or isolate you two from other people.
He pauses during conversations to make eye contact.
Pushing during conversation is one of the basic texts in a guy who wants to kiss you’s textbook. The nonverbal cue plays a subconscious role of letting you know he has more thoughts than the conversation, and if he is looking nervous, this makes this point even more true.
Verbal and physical hints
Compliments that are tailored to your eyes, smile, or lips are indications that he wants to plant a kiss on your lips. This is a way of drawing your attention to your physical superpowers that he finds attractive. For instance, “Your smile is so beautiful—I could look at it all day.”.
He may shower or tease you with flirtatious banter or bring up topics that hinge on your romantic escapades. For example, he may quiz “romantic moments that you crave or may have experienced that you can’t forget.”
Also, he may brush your arm or hand or find other excuses that will permit gentle contact while also adjusting his appearance around you. Sometimes, he may pause before or after he says goodbye.
What Goes Through a Guy’s Mind When He Thinks About Kissing His Crush?
Beyond anticipation of the first kiss with you, a guy crushing on you faces numerous dilemmas thinking of kissing you, but I will focus on the major one.
Romantic fantasy vs. fear of rejection
It is always amazing to get attracted to anyone–the endless butterflies in our beliefs, the constant urge to seek to see this individual, and the possible thoughts of exploring numerous desires such as going on a date, kissing, making out, etc.
However, something always stands in the way of this feeling of excitement, which is why someone may crush on you for months to years without making any move. Fear of rejection is the main reason why the guy who crushes on you may keep showing these signs without taking any steps.
Depending on how a guy socializes while growing up and depending on his family settings, he may have a phobia of being rejected—making it safer to withhold his thoughts and actions, as being depressed could lead to depression and a stronger feeling of low self-worth.
Should You Make the First Move?
Many decades ago, many cultures and traditions would frown at the idea of a girl making the first move, but these cultural barriers have been loosened up. In some other instances, some girls may fear being taken for granted when they make the first move—begging the question, “Is it okay to make the first move when you notice all the verbal and nonverbal cues?
If my sister or female friend has a crush on someone and asks me if they should make the first move, I’d say no! Because when the female is the one crushing, and the guy has little to no interest, there is a high chance you will be taken for granted.
However, here is the big secret: if it is a guy who is crushing on you—displaying verbal and non-verbal cues—you can make the first move and withdraw after—creating a pull-and-push psychological effect that will cause the guy to keep chasing you intensively—while you retain your dignity.
Final take
Guys desire to kiss most ladies they have a crush on, and they show signs that align with their thoughts. However, all guys who have a crush on you may not desire to kiss you since some people hate to kiss you or may be attracted to other features you possess.
